From Darling

Letters to Dear Sir from a woman who loves him deeply. A tale of love, happiness, heartache, and finding each other again after many years. Happy endings are not always expected or predicted. Here’s to hope.

Two people who met in a virtual world then took it to the next level to meet in real life. They shared a profound love tempered by verbal, witty sparring (which they both loved), laughter and tears. It’s a love that spans across an ocean between two continents. They are drawn to each other in every sense of the definition.

He will always be her Sir, and he knows why. She is his Darling.


From Sir

My Darling started this as letters to her Sir. It was not her intention to show him her musings just yet but like everything in their life it was difficult for her not to share.

Sir, despite his title, committed an unspeakable act. He broke and discarded the most precious thing in his life, his Darling. In the process he lost himself. Darling was the centre of his world, the love of his life and his moral and ethical compass.

They may have met online, as many do, but their love was far from virtual. It transcended two continents and crossed the largest ocean. Their bond was comedic, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and ultimately physical.

Now after many years, they have again found one another. Their worlds have changed but their feelings remain undiminished. The poignancy of their situation is a heartbreak in itself. Will their story have a happy ending? Dare they hope.


Β©2013 Darling and Sir


87 comments on “About

  1. aliciabelle says:

    Thank you so much for visiting my blog and also for liking my post (“Out of the dark”), i just discovered your blog and i think is amazing. I like the writing style, the honesty and warmth of your letters (both Darling and Sir’s letters) and, reading between the lines sometimes, i could feel the beauty and the strength of your love. May this Love last forever!

    • Alicia,
      Thank you for your kind words. Our letters aren’t always easy to write, but we’re determined to write about the good, the bad, and ugly. It’s an amazing journey even to us. We never thought we’d come in contact with each other again much less confess that our feelings have not diminished. Wish us luck! ~ Darling

    • Blogging about this experience has been a potent force in my life. I for one am enriched by it (even if I do get to see my own shortcoming detailed in all their black and white glory). I loved browsing your blog. Thanks so much for showing an interest in The Sir Letters. As you say there is real strength and beauty in our love. Who knows we may actually figure it all out in the end. – Regards Sir

  2. I think your blog is beautiful. It’s a wonderful reminder that love still exists and people still fight for each other- I”m a hopeless romantic you see. I hope you never give up on your love, on each other. Thank you for liking my post. God bless!

    • Hi Megs

      I have enjoyed perusing your blog. You are remarkably well travelled for your age. I can see how it has broadened your mind and informed your writing. Thanks for dropping by and being so kind. – Regards Sir

      • Hi there Sir πŸ™‚
        Wow thank you! Hehe that was very sweet of you to say. Yeah my parents ensured that we at least experience the world ourselves and I’m glad we have. It has taught me many lessons. Thank you for reading through everything πŸ™‚ I grately appreciate it!

        God bless,

    • Megs,
      Love is beautiful and I believe that’s what you’re feeling. We love and respect each other deeply. I’m thrilled to think our feelings are shining through our words. Thank you kindly.
      ~ Sincerely, Darling

      • You’re so welcome :). It’s amazing to know just how much a person can convey through words. Reading your letters, be it good or bad, I’m learning the truth about love. So thank you.
        God bless,

  3. pinwika says:

    Hello Darling and Sir!
    thanks so much for visiting my blog and liking my post “Girlfriend Material”
    I was able to read several entries. How sweet! I hope all turns out well πŸ™‚


  4. DRangedinaz says:

    Thanks for stopping by my site and for the “like”!

  5. Thanks for the follow!

  6. wildflower says:

    Hello, thank you so much for liking my post “Championing a long distance relationship”. I am new to blogging and I draw inspiration from my experiences, and wow, your blog is so like my journey! I hope your story ends like mine πŸ™‚

  7. Jedizaugg says:

    Thank you for liking my post “Me… Just Me” and for stopping by my blog. Your blog is beautiful. I look forward to reading more from both of you. πŸ™‚

  8. I absolutely LOVE your blog…..it kind of reminds me of a gal I loved so much and gave everything up for.
    You both write beautifully!

    • That is quite the compliment, thank you. Darling & I were literally talking together on the phone and both saw your comment come through.

      I’ve been enjoying your blog as well. The struggling would be author saga was compelling. I liked how you resolved it. It made me feel a little better about the world, especially when they refunded your donation.

      However the minimum wage assistant proved a poignant coda to the story.


    • I thank you as well. You are too kind.

  9. wingedprisms says:

    Hello. I find your site fascinating – thank you so much for visiting mine. πŸ˜€
    cate b

  10. wvrealtoramy says:

    Your blog is beautifully honest. I can’t wait to get caught up!

  11. ashadeofpen says:

    is it a fictional attempt or are the ;poems, letters a true tale.. I must say i am soooo intrigued by the blog and the LOVE πŸ™‚

    • Hi there,

      Our tale is indeed true. Every good, bad, and ugly detail is all true. Sir and I are two different people, although some have wondered. We are about to prove it audibly (even though we’ve posted a couple of blurred pictures).

      Thank you for your lovely words.

      ~ Darling

      • ashadeofpen says:

        Wow.. I never doubted ur existence. I am new to the blog.. so I wanted to know if it is figment of imagination or reality. Either ways, I am hooked to ur blog πŸ™‚ Hope life gives you a happy everafter πŸ™‚

    • Hi Shruti

      This is very much real and we most definitely are two people. My Darling describes it as surreal. I however am in absolute awe that I have been allowed to reconnect with the woman I have carried a torch for these past fifteen years.

      Thanks for showing an interest.


  12. That EJ says:

    Amazing! I love the idea and the format here. So clever, and such a sweet read. I have only read two of your posts/letters thus far, but I look forward to reading more and following this journey of yours. Such fantastic writing, well done! and thanks for sharing! πŸ™‚

  13. Ivie says:

    Thanks so much for liking my post! πŸ™‚

  14. Debbie says:

    Well, Darling and Sir,
    International meeting of hearts and souls was my first experience of sharing Love in word. An interesting site indeed. Thank you so much for noticing “Come Quickly” on Shadows of Love.

    • Hi Debbie,

      Thank you for your kind words. International love and meeting is indeed a rare treat. Sir and I are happy to be part of that percentage.
      Your site is great. Looking forward to reading more.

      ~ Darling

  15. cupitonians says:

    I probably don’t say it as often as I should but your blog is very special to me and I’ve nominated you for 3 awards. Yes. Three. http://wp.me/sQUCq-rewarded . Much love!

    • Cupi

      That is incredibly generous of you and I thank you unreservedly.

      I am however relatively new to this WordPress caper so I will need to consult with my Darling so she can explain it to me (she is an old hand on WordPress.)

      I trust we do your nomination proud. Once again thank you for your kind words and endorsement.


  16. veronica vasquez says:

    I spent my entire evening reading (and listening) to all of your letters from beginning to end.
    You are both my new addiction! I, too, have “met” someone online and we have communicated with one other for 46 days straight. He lives in Ireland, I live in USA. We are both writers, and musicians, and sharing our lives in 140 characters or less. Ha Ha. Another modern love story. Absolutely can’t wait to see how our future unfolds.

    At times when I’m reading your letters, there is a scene from “It’s a Wonderful Life” that pops into my head. When George Bailey walks Mary home after the dance and he asks her if he could lasso the moon for her. There is an old man reading the paper, smoking his pipe that yells to George, “Why don’t you just kiss her instead of talking her to death?!”

    Sir, why don’t you just fly out to the USA and propose to Darling instead of talking to her? Youth is wasted on the young, and Sir, we are not getting any younger!

    I know, I know, it’s complicated. But it doesn’t have to be. Oh, well. I do enjoy your letters. To be continued . . .

    veronica vasquez

    • Dear Veronica

      I am both humbled and flattered that you have taken the time to both read us and hear us. I trust my Australian accent wasn’t too grating on your ears. I have been enjoying your blog as well. I must be a little behind though because “46 days” and man from “Ireland” is not ringing any bells. For that I apologise. I can say however that I wish you everything you wish yourself and I trust you find true happiness.

      Its a wonderful movie you cite here. I fear you are right, I am doing too much talking and not taking near enough action. No doubt Darling will be thrilled to hear you tell me that I am not getting any younger.

      Why don’t I fly out and propose? Well the reasons are complicated and many. I won’t get into specifics but what I can say it is not because I fear rejection (although that is a very real possibility.) What I fear is losing my best friend again. I am very much basking in the afterglow of finding my Darling again (actually she found me.) Darling is still very much coming to terms with what that actually means. When I believe she has reconciled things in her mind I will have my answer. If I don’t get my answer I will be on that plane in a heartbeat and U.S. bound.

      Thanks again for dropping by and showing an interest. Have a great Christmas.


    • My Dear Veronica,

      Firstly, congratulations on your new love interest. Good luck with everything.

      Secondly, things are more complex than people know. It’s complicated because it is – which is vague I know. In the years that Sir and I were lost to each other, life happened and choices were made by each of us. We’re living with the results of those choices that affect other people and not just ourselves (me more so than Sir now, but that didn’t use to be the case).
      We met online yes, but that carried over to real life as you’ve read. There is also a lot of past hurt that is being dealt with. I disassociated for years.

      I love Sir unconditionally. I always have and always will. He knows it, and that feels good. We may figure it out one day, but I am happy we’re in each others’ lives again – for what it’s worth.

      I love your attitude. It’s infectious.

      Merry Christmas, V.

      ~ Darling

  17. Martine says:

    Dear Darling,

    ” it was difficult for her not to share”, said Sir.
    Thank goodness for the sharers.


  18. Shahin says:

    What a creative concept…!

  19. Aiming for Simplicity says:

    Your first entries from October have me feeling hope and joy and love, what a beautiful blog!

  20. Hey thanks for your kind words and for dropping by to take a look. I have to say it’s nice to have an another Aussie around the place. Have a great 2014.


  21. Aiming for Simplicity says:

    Darling and Sir, I have just spent the best part of four hours reading every entry here and I thank you both for your candid honestly, for sharing your hearts, and for sharing with us. Several entries had me in tears, the pain and suffering both of you have been through is palpable and your love shines through your beautifully written words. How blessed you are to have found each other again, regardless of the obstacles that currently face you. I look forward to your continued letters and can assure you that they will be a highlight of my reader on any given day. Thank you, what a beautiful gift you share. And Sir, your home town is incredible, I finally (after 38 years) got to visit it’s beautiful shores last September and thoroughly enjoyed it.

    • I am pleased that you have enjoyed our letters, and even more so that they have touched you.
      We both will be checking out your own blog soon.
      As for our story, it is still unfolding. Thank you for your kind words.

      ~ Darling

  22. This is by far the most heartbreaking yet sweetest thing I have ever read. The story of your love reminds me of a romance novel. I am romantic at heart and I hope the two of you, are able to find your happily ever after.

    • Hi Jennifer

      Darling and I are both hopeless romantics. How else could we be considering the circumstances? I hope we find our happily ever after as well. No doubt we will post about it here as the story unfolds. Thanks for your kind words and for dropping by.


  23. rjl2727 says:

    what the fuck!! is this for real??? you had liked one of my posts recently, so as my custom, i checked your blog out. this is out-of-control?? i’ve only read the latest “exchange” and your (and his) about. please tell me this is going to be worth me following!! i’m going out on a limb to do so.

    • RJL,
      How, exactly, are YOU going out on a limb to follow this blog? Are YOU laying your soul bare for the world to poke around in?
      Stop looking for instant gratification and start reading the letters from the beginning. Someday YOU will be bragging to your friends that you were reading ‘The Sir Letters’ long before anyone else and long before the Oscar winning movie!

      • rjl2727 says:

        i do sincerely apologize, first for the use of profanity – this just caught me so off guard and sent me reeling that i momentarily lost composure. and secondly, no instant gratification will not do, i intend to go back to the beginning to catch up. but, uh, how many idle years of reading time will i need to get there?? p.s. if you read any of my stuff, you’ll realize my soul is quite bare and out there. thanks.

  24. Hi RJL

    Thanks for dropping by and yes this is very much “for real.” Out of control is one way to describe it, under control to the point of almost being repressed, suppressed and oppressed may be another. I love the WordPress world but it can be hard to understand a blog unless you have read it all, but let’s be honest here who wants to read 70+ posts to catch up on a story?

    We are the real deal. Not long after reconnecting we decided to blog about it (we both have other spaces in the blogosphere). This is our journey and like you we are watching it unfold before our very eyes. We hope you find it both interesting and compelling and that you can stick around and become part of out little community.


  25. Sheila says:

    This maybe an uncomfortable experience but it made for fun reading. I love how it was accounted.

  26. I just stumbled on your blog today and despite best attempts because I’m at work, I can’t stop reading! This is such a compelling story, great blog!

    • Hi There

      I wish I could say I was sorry that we are distracting you at work, but it makes me more than a little happy in a small yet deliciously evil kind of way.

      Thanks for sharing our story with us and I hope you enjoy the ride.


  27. What a beautiful love story! It is a rare and amazing thing when souls connect on every level. Thank you for sharing with us!

    Most Warmly,

  28. Hi Nirvani (I’ve got to say I love your name)

    It is still quite the trip, even for us. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts.


  29. notavogon says:

    I can’t believe it took me so long to find your story, but thank you. I’m in somewhat of a similar situation with both the countries and the distance, and I love your style of writing. I am so glad you have found each other, it seems that truth and true love will prevail, though there may be hardships. Thank you for the hope.

  30. Dear Sir and dear Darling,
    I love your blog for it’s humour and originality.
    Thus, i have nominated you for the Liebster Award. If you do accept nominations and awards here, please follow this link to my nomination post for further instructions http://lincathleon.wordpress.com/2014/01/23/liebster-award/
    If you don’t, please accept the compliment, ignore the rest and have a wonderful day, LC

  31. Okay, now the wedding post makes sense, somehow I forgot to read the about page, *facepalm*

    • Hi Moon I’m glad out story makes sense to somebody (joking). Yes these last four months for us have been quite a trip. Blogging about it may have helped make sense of it but I don’t really know. I never expected to see or hear from Darling again. Now that we have found one another (lets be honest here, Darling found me) what do we do when we realise we are still very much in love? In the preceding 15 years life kind of got in the way. We don’t know the answer yet, but when we do you’ll read about it here. Regards Sir

      • Well one of us has to know what’s going on, lol. I’m happy you two found each other again and I’m wishing you all the best. I look forward to reading y’alls future letters and catching up on the ones I’ve missed πŸ˜€

  32. Vijay says:

    Your story and blog is quite unique and immensely enjoyable


  33. Hope says:

    Thank you for visiting my Site. A Penny and A Smile. I am excited to get into your blog. Want to hear a secret, shhhh, you can’t tell anyone. I met my honey online also. January 14 made nine years, want to hear another secret? June 14 will make 9 years of marriage. It is a journey worth taking. Scary and beautiful all at the same time. Our first phone bill? $11000? Yes, it was an error, but we talked about 8-10 hours a day. Yay bluetooth. Enjoy the journey! ~Shanna

  34. Hello! Thanks for visiting my blog and for giving me the opportunity to visit yours! I look forward to following the love story….

  35. I’m new here to the WordPress community so I’m stalking the comment feed of blogs I follow to find new blogs to follow…

    I found you stalking Polysyllabic Profundities!

    I look forward to you being in my reader!

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